Why You Don't Need A Role Model

I was always the little girl who would stare wide-eyed at the tv screen, practically looking for a role model to emulate. I mean, that meant I would be happy, right? And how much easier it would be to have everything decided for me. All I had to do was watch and imitate. I would be beautiful, smart and successful- if only some of their greatness rubbed off on me, right?

I no longer have role models and it's not just because I've grown up. Over time, I have realized how detrimental role models are to my self-esteem. Keep these points in mind as you're navigating through life.

💜 We Put Role Models on Pedestals- By definition, a role model is "a person whose behavior, example or success is or can be emulated by others, especially younger people." When you're emulating someone, you do so for a reason. You think they're really great and you put them on a pedestal they probably don't deserve to be on. Stop thinking anyone is better than you and start realizing that we're all equal in terms of worth and value.

💜 Having a Role Model Means You Aren't Happy With Yourself- When you look to someone else for instruction on how to behave, look or even think, it's because you view yourself as lacking. Imitating someone else isn't going to make you feel better about yourself because you aren't actually being you. You'e being someone else. You need to stop relying on other people to lift you up and start loving yourself.

💜 Role Models Are Unrealistic- No one is perfect, not even role models. More often than not, we only see our role models in certain situations where they shine. But what about the times when we don't seem them? Well, you can only assume how your role model is going to behave or look when you're not around. Comparing yourself to a perfect assumption is always going to end badly. You'll begin to beat yourself up over not living up to

a perfect/assumed standard you have set based on someone else. Don't do that to yourself.

You can still look to others for ideas on how to improve yourself. I am a firm believer in growing and changing for the better. I take inspiration from a lot of different people, but I don't try to become anyone. I love myself enough to still be able to be me, but work on my weaknesses.


What are your thoughts on role models? Do you have any advice? Leave a comment down below!

XOXO,

Isabella Dominique

Why You Need To Have Goals

I was talking to a really good friend recently about our current life situations. Being in your early twenties isn't the easiest time in life (but is still a heck of a lot easier than being a teenager). We are both new-ish college graduates and are now working in the "real world." She chose the finance path in life, while I chose education. Even though we are two different people with different interests, I strongly believe one of the reasons we have remained such good friends is because we have one major value in common: We're goal diggers. My friend and I seem to be constantly working towards something and seeing her working towards her goals inspires me to work towards mine.

But, are goals really that important? What's the point of constantly having goals? Isn't it exhausting to never be finished? Why can't you just sit and enjoy what you have earned? Because goals are too important to throw away.

💜 Goals Help Treat Depression- When you have depression, it's easy to feel stuck, unmotivated and uninspired. You may not have any desire to do much of anything, except sit there and feel numb. But, having a goal, no matter how small, can brighten up your days because you'll have something to live for. When you have rough days, focusing on your goals and bettering yourself will give you the motivation to keep on going.

💜 Goals Help You To Grow- The reason why you can't just stop having goals after you've reached a certain level of achievement is because as soon you stop working towards something, you stop growing. Once you stop growing, you'll eventually die on the inside. As morbid as that sounds, it's true. Growing is so important to living a healthy and fulfilled life. It's impossible to grow too much. You can always be improving yourself , while still loving who you are.

💜 Goals Give You Confidence- There are few things in life that can match the feeling of absolute bliss when you've accomplished a goal. It proves that you are perfectly capable of achievement and it makes you wonder what else can happen if you work hard. You'll feel good and walk with your head head a little higher knowing that you can do it.

💜 Goals Make Your More Attractive- I love being around people who are working towards goals, especially if they started at the bottom. Why? Because they're inspiring and they make me want to work on my goals too. They know the value of growth and hard work. People who have goals are living proof that what you want and who you want to be are possible. On the other hand, being around someone who is stagnant in life is emotionally draining, especially if they let their frustration show. No one wants to be around someone who is unmotivated because it's depressing. Don't be that person. Be the person who inspires someone else to better their own lives. 


Do you have any goals? What are they? Leave a comment down below!

XOXO,

Isabella Dominique