Why You Don't Need A Role Model

I was always the little girl who would stare wide-eyed at the tv screen, practically looking for a role model to emulate. I mean, that meant I would be happy, right? And how much easier it would be to have everything decided for me. All I had to do was watch and imitate. I would be beautiful, smart and successful- if only some of their greatness rubbed off on me, right?

I no longer have role models and it's not just because I've grown up. Over time, I have realized how detrimental role models are to my self-esteem. Keep these points in mind as you're navigating through life.

💜 We Put Role Models on Pedestals- By definition, a role model is "a person whose behavior, example or success is or can be emulated by others, especially younger people." When you're emulating someone, you do so for a reason. You think they're really great and you put them on a pedestal they probably don't deserve to be on. Stop thinking anyone is better than you and start realizing that we're all equal in terms of worth and value.

💜 Having a Role Model Means You Aren't Happy With Yourself- When you look to someone else for instruction on how to behave, look or even think, it's because you view yourself as lacking. Imitating someone else isn't going to make you feel better about yourself because you aren't actually being you. You'e being someone else. You need to stop relying on other people to lift you up and start loving yourself.

💜 Role Models Are Unrealistic- No one is perfect, not even role models. More often than not, we only see our role models in certain situations where they shine. But what about the times when we don't seem them? Well, you can only assume how your role model is going to behave or look when you're not around. Comparing yourself to a perfect assumption is always going to end badly. You'll begin to beat yourself up over not living up to

a perfect/assumed standard you have set based on someone else. Don't do that to yourself.

You can still look to others for ideas on how to improve yourself. I am a firm believer in growing and changing for the better. I take inspiration from a lot of different people, but I don't try to become anyone. I love myself enough to still be able to be me, but work on my weaknesses.


What are your thoughts on role models? Do you have any advice? Leave a comment down below!

XOXO,

Isabella Dominique