How To Handle Being Ghosted

You meet a new special someone and things seem to be going great. He or she is very attentive, you may even have gone on a few awesome dates, and you probably made plans to see each other again. Then, out the blue, that special someone stops answering your texts and phone calls. You try reaching out a few more times, but still nothing. What gives? Well, you've just been ghosted. It happens to all of us, myself included. I've come up with a few ways to handle being ghosted that will help you out if you're feeling low.

💜 Don't Get Mad- Getting mad at someone who doesn't want to be with you is a waste of time and is something that will only hurt you in the long run. I know how frustrating it can be to invest time and energy into someone, only to have them fall off the face of the Earth. Realize that being ghosted is a risk of the dating game and be grateful you dodged a bullet.

💜 Don't Try To Reach Out- You can reach out once or twice after you suspect you've been ghosted, but don't constantly bug someone who clearly doesn't want to talk. Reaching out will make you look desperate. If someone wanted to be with you, he or she would make it known. You shouldn't have to work so hard to keep someone's attention.

💜 Don't Ask Why- I know how tempting it is to ask why it didn't work out. Did you say or do something wrong? Was there someone else? You may think knowing will help you improve yourself so you don't make the same mistakes, but it won't. If you know why, you're going to beat yourself up about it. You'll also be tempted to try to change yourself, thinking the person will magically want you. They won't. Honestly, most of the time, it's not even about you. A lot of people simply don't know what they want or are scared of commitment. If you're seeing a pattern of being ghosted and can't shake the idea that you may be doing something wrong, try talking to a friend to get an outside opinion.

💜 Realize You're Better Off- Do you really want to be with someone who is so willing to ignore you? Do you think you deserve to be treated like that? No matter how amazing that person may be, anyone who doesn't have the decency to tell you they are no longer interested is not worth it. I promise you when the right person comes along, you won't have to worry so much. You won't be ignored and you will be treated with the respect you deserve.




Have you ever been ghosted? What are some of your tips for handling it? Leave a comment down below!


XOXO,

Isabella Dominique